Postnatal Depression during the COVID-19 pandemic
Lockdown 2.0 just being over here in the UK, many of us are feeling lonely and struggling in so many ways, even without being depressed. For those who are depressed however, life may feel desperate, isolation having made it even harder. At the moment when we are constantly being fed distressing information, you may find yourself feeling overwhelmed by it all - worrying about the situation as a whole, or worrying about yourself, friends and family.
Suffering from Postnatal depression (PND) can a very lonely experience. What may trigger depressive feelings when we have a tiny baby who is totally reliant on us, is the feeling of being the only one in the world NOT loving the situation, NOT feeling blessed, NOT enjoying breast-feeding, NOT losing the baby weight...Feeling like we are the 'only' one, i.e. alone, in our world, brings about feelings of loneliness.
Seeing friends and family may be what you need right now, so not being allowed - or recommended - to do so may feel very punishing. This is a strange and distressing time to be isolated and, suffering from depression, this isolation can make feelings of loneliness much more intense - but we want you to know: you are not alone.
We here at Muma Nurture understand and we want to help!
For some of us, seeing people might be the last thing we want to do right now and this imposed isolation may even seem like a blessing...We would suggest isolation in any shape can have detrimental effects.
Historically, humans, because of necessity, evolved into social beings. Our ability to survive harsh environmental circumstances was helped by us depending on and cooperating with
each other. Today, without those ancient times threats, we still have an innate need to connect with others - it is indeed essential for psychological survival - and the lack of connection can lead to many problems.
So, where we would usually recommend not isolating yourself, we now find ourselves in an unprecedented situation where we have to isolate ourselves from others - in order to prevent more people becoming bereaved. But, thanks to the internet and it's many platforms, we are able to talk to and 'see' each other on computer, phone and or television screens. We recommend you do this, no matter how 'antisocial' you are feeling.
True friends will be 'there' for us, however 'boring', annoying, sad, depressed or negative we may feel. Sometimes, however, we don't want to 'put upon' our friends and family, for whatever reason - however wonderfully supportive our near and dear are. That is where a counsellor could be very useful. Talking to someone who is not a friend and not related, has proven helpful for so many million of people around the globe.
A counsellor is there to facilitate a safe space for you, the client. The counsellor is not a doctor, they aren't there to 'fix' anything; they are there to listen to you - the expert on yourself - with true empathy and without passing judgment, helping you to make sense of all the often conflicting thoughts in your head. The counsellor has no agenda and the therapeutic hour - often 50 minutes - is yours to use as you see fit, in order to get what you need from your counselling session.
At Muma Nurture, we are keeping up to date with the latest advice in this ever-changing situation and, although we can't (wo-)man our office, we are still offering our services online.
If you would like to explore your feelings around PND, please contact Muma Nurture and we’ll arrange for you to talk to one of our qualified counsellors - by phone or video chat.
We are here to help.