Having lost a baby can be one of the loneliest experiences you'll ever go through and seeing friends and family may be what you need right now. Therefore, not being allowed to do so may feel very punishing. This is a strange and distressing time to be isolated and mourning the loss of your baby - isolation can make feelings of loneliness and grief much more intense - but we want you to know that you are not alone; we here at Muma Nurture are here to help you.
For some of us, seeing people might be the last thing we want to do and this imposed isolation may even seem like a blessing...I would suggest isolation in any shape can have very detrimental effects.
Historically, humans, because of necessity, evolved into social beings. Our ability to survive harsh environmental circumstances was helped by us depending on and cooperating with
each other. Today, without those ancient times threats, we still have an innate need to connect with others - it is indeed essential for psychological survival - and the lack of connection can lead to many problems.
7 weeks into our lockdown here in the UK, many of us are feeling very lonely and struggling in so many ways, even without being bereaved. For those who are bereaved however, isolation makes it even harder to process grief and life may feel desperate.
At the moment when we are constantly being fed distressing information, you may find yourself distracted from dealing with your grief, too busy worrying about the situation as a whole, or worrying about yourself and others.
Where we would usually recommend not isolating yourself, we now find ourselves in an unprecedented situation where we have to isolate ourselves from others - in order to prevent more people becoming bereaved. But, thanks to the internet and it's many platforms, we are able to talk to and 'see' each other on computer, phone and/or tv screens. We recommend you do this, no matter how 'antisocial' you are feeling.
At Muma Nurture, we are keeping up to date with the latest advice in this ever-changing situation and, although we can't (wo-)man our office, we are still offering our services online.
If you would like to explore your feelings around losing your baby, please contact Muma Nurture and we’ll arrange for you to talk to one of our qualified counsellors - by phone or video chat.
We are here to help!