According to the NHS website, 1 in 10 women experience Postnatal Depression - PND - within a year of giving birth and it can also affect fathers and partners.
Seeing all the seemingly perfect, happy new mums around us with their seemingly perfect, happy babies, can be difficult, especially if we don’t feel the euphoria others seem to feel about the new baby. If, for instance, our baby isn’t sleeping well, cries a lot, or if we can’t get along with breast-feeding, we may feel inadequate, not good enough, as mothers, women, wives, partners...
PND can feel extra dark and painful during a holiday - like Easter - when everything is bright and colourful and we are "supposed" to (?) get together with friends and family to celebrate. For the religious among us, Easter is of course about the resurrection of Christ, so re-birth and new life...I would suggest, however, that you break the holiday down into smaller morsels; if you don't do all the cooking, baking, entertaining, playing - whatever it is you would usually do - don't be so hard on yourself. It is OK not to be OK and not doing as much as you would normally do, does not make you a weaker person.
I would also urge you to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
We have four basic feelings - happiness, sadness, anger and fear - each and every one as important and 'normal' as the next. Bottling feelings up and brushing them under the carpet (by telling ourselves we need to Get a grip! or Move on!) is not helpful or healthy and will not make the sadness disappear.
This year, things are of course very different and many people are finding this unprecedented situation frightening. In my house, we are trying to keep busy with school work, but also with everyday life skills, like cooking, baking, wood work and gardening We are also spending more time than ever exercising mindfulness and reading books under a blanket on the sofa. We only watch the news once a day and we are trying to appreciate what is good at the moment, rather than what is bad.
If you are in self-isolation, try ringing friends and/or family at least once a day. This helps with feeling connected to the world, without actually seeing anyone. I find ringing someone who is on their own - no matter what my own situation may be - rewarding. Online applications like Facetime, Houseparty and Zoom make it easy for us to see the people we are talking to.
Feeling alone in our depression is a big part of why it is so painful. Nobody understands...No one knows what I am going through...So why not tell them? I would suggest not hiding how you're feeling, there is no need for a "stiff upper lip" in this day and age. Telling people how you feel will not make things worse; people who care want to share your feelings with you.
At Muma Nurture we offer support through counselling, hypnotherapy, reflexology and other holistic therapies.
If you are feeling depressed or struggling with your self-esteem, hypnotherapy can be a very effective therapy; working on the subconscious to change negative thinking and encourage more positive thoughts, it can boost your confidence and self-esteem.
Reflexology is a nurturing and supportive treatment that helps bring your body systems back into a state of balance. Offering sometimes much needed time to yourself, reflexology will also help balance your hormones and increase your feelings of calm and well-being.
Counselling is a talking therapy where the counsellor acts as an empathic facilitator, often empowering the client by listening and acknowledging their whole experience, without passing judgment.
We are of course following the government guidelines of how to deal with the Corona pandemic and staying home. Our office is temporarily closed, but we are still "here" for you. Please contact us to find out what we can do for you.