We are often led to believe that Mother’s Day is about breakfast in bed, joyful tears over handmade cards and being celebrated for being wonderful mothers.
However, if you’re a mum suffering with postnatal depression, you may be dreading this "lovely" day, which is fast approaching. Perhaps, when you think about Mother's Day on Sunday, you want to cry because you don't feel deserving of those handmade cards or the people who made them. If you feel you're doing a terrible job with your child/-ren, you may just want to hide away in bed, rather than being brought breakfast in it, on Sunday.
I would suggest trying to change your mindset about Mother's Day and putting a plan in place, of how you will cope. If you are trying not to think/worry about Sunday, putting a plan in place is even more important, as that would suggest denial about your fear - and the impact on the actual day might then be even bigger than you fear, if you don't deal with it beforehand.
If you use social media, consider steering clear from it, during this lead-up to Sunday.
Stop trying to "get a grip" and be happy or grateful for your good fortune. Depression is an illness - you can't switch it off for the day - and it is OK not to be OK.
Being honest with yourself and others about you feelings will take away some of the power these feelings have over you, most likely helping you feel less anxious and allowing your family to better understand and help you.
Make sure to ask for what you need; if you don't want to go out for lunch with tens of other wonderful mothers, say so!
Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that you are enough.
According to the NHS website, 1 in 10 women experience PND within a year of giving birth and it can also affect fathers and partners.
Here at Muma Nurture, we offer support through counselling, hypnotherapy, reflexology and other holistic therapies.
Hypnotherapy can be a very effective therapy for depression, working on the subconscious to change negative thinking and encourage positive thoughts, it can boost your confidence and self-esteem.
Reflexology is a nurturing and supportive treatment that helps bring your body systems back into a state of balance. Offering sometimes much needed time to yourself, reflexology will also help balance your hormones and increase your feelings of calm and well-being.
Counselling is a talking therapy where the counsellor acts as an empathic facilitator, often empowering the client by listening and acknowledging their whole experience, without passing judgment.
Please don't hesitate to contact us to find out how our professional therapists could help you.